Phone, not “our” property
HAVE you ever created your horror and devastation? Whenever you feel like spoiling your happiness and destroying your marriage or relationship, just take your better half’s phone and be a self-proclaimed detective.
Everyone knows that our phones are a chronicle of our deepest secrets, embarrassing habits, and addictive impulses. They are a portal into the most vulnerable and damning accounts of interior worlds.
It is a good idea to share passwords, but respecting privacy and boundaries is required to maintain a harmonious relationship in this modern era. Sharing passwords is for emergencies as well as changing the music in the car, looking up something on a web browser, and doing exactly what your partner will have given you greenlight to do only. The majority of people in long-term relationships share their passwords with their partners for these reasons, with full confidence that they will not go through their messages or social media.
“I have nothing to hide,” they say. “We don’t keep secrets from one another. It’s a gesture of trust.”
However, a cell phone is private property and must be respected at all times. You may discover all kinds of things on your partner’s phone, but peace will never be one. Checking a partner’s phone points to grave underlying issues in the relationship and qualifies as a violation of trust. This is pretty serious stuff and checking a partner’s phone is never a good idea. As much as there are many reasons for cell phone snooping in relationships, the core reasons point to a lack of trust and low self-esteem.
In romanticising the expectations of love, some people often forsake the need for personal space. They keep confusing love with the phantom of possession. The idea of togetherness is not taking control of each other’s lives or being joined at the hip. A healthy relationship has boundaries that include giving each other space to grow as a couple and as individuals.
Should couples have access to each other’s phones? Maybe, if both partners are comfortable with the idea of sharing passwords and letting each other handle their personal devices and accounts without feeling as if their privacy has been violated. But checking your partner’s phone and snooping around without their knowledge or demanding that they share their phone details with you even when they are not comfortable doing so is wrong and you could end up losing your partner.
Some people are inherently private by nature and to them their space is sacred. In fact, personal space in any relationship is healthy and must be respected by the partners involved. No one has the right to invade another’s privacy.
Unfortunately, sometimes you might come across a partner who does not respect your personal space. They might wonder aloud, “Is it wrong to ask to see your partner’s phone?” And when you answer in the affirmative, they might rebuke you with, “Why would you mind if you have nothing to hide?” Such people miss the point that relationships are based on trust and much more.
It is no secret that suspicion is one of the leading reasons behind someone snooping in a relationship. Is he still texting his ex? Is she flirting at work? Was he at his office when I called him at lunch? You feel the need to go behind your partner’s back, checking your partner’s texts or worse, demanding they unlock and surrender the device to you. What does it mean when someone goes through your phone? You probably think there is someone else in your partner’s life even without any proof. This shows that there is a deep-seated lack of trust in the relationship. Checking the phone is not going to solve these issues but it can definitely make the equation more complex.
Even though you may convince yourself that sharing passwords and devices is normal, you know that you are crossing a line here. The psychology behind snooping points to a lack of trust and a person’s own inner sense of insecurity and suspicion. No amount of openness in any relationship would win their trust. If you are one of these people, it might help if you consider what it means when someone goes through your phone.
In a lot of cases, people look through their partner’s phone not out of suspicion or doubt but solely out of curiosity. By checking their partner’s phone, they just want to keep a tab on what’s going on in their partner’s life. You can blame it on an inherently control freak personality or jealousy over their partner spending copious amounts of time hooked to their phone. Either way, it is wrong to check on your partner’s phone.
If you respect your partner’s space, you will be surprised at how this naturally makes them gravitate toward you more. Having space in a relationship helps both of you to cultivate your personalities, pursue your interests, and even have your own sets of friends.
Communication is the key to establishing trust and resolving conflicts. If there is something bothering you, talk to your partner about it. Maybe even establish protocols for the use of cell phones when you are together. Don’t let cell phones ruin your relationship. One tip could be that while cooking and having meals together you can both decide to put your phones on mute and keep them far away from the dining table. That way you can enjoy communicating face-to-face.
If you want things to work out between you and your significant other, you must quit snooping and fight the urge to check your partner’s phone. Instead, look for a healthy approach to fixing your relationship. The first step in that direction is to have an honest conversation about your suspicions and lack of trust. Ask for more transparency in the relationship, if that’s what you need to feel secure. Feedback: Whatsapp 0782309695
HAVE you ever created your horror and devastation? Whenever you feel like spoiling your happiness and destroying your marriage or relationship, just take your better half’s phone and be a self-proclaimed detective.
Everyone knows that our phones are a chronicle of our deepest secrets, embarrassing habits, and addictive impulses. They are a portal into the most vulnerable and damning accounts of interior worlds.
It is a good idea to share passwords, but respecting privacy and boundaries is required to maintain a harmonious relationship in this modern era. Sharing passwords is for emergencies as well as changing the music in the car, looking up something on a web browser, and doing exactly what your partner will have given you greenlight to do only. The majority of people in long-term relationships share their passwords with their partners for these reasons, with full confidence that they will not go through their messages or social media.
“I have nothing to hide,” they say. “We don’t keep secrets from one another. It’s a gesture of trust.”
However, a cell phone is private property and must be respected at all times. You may discover all kinds of things on your partner’s phone, but peace will never be one. Checking a partner’s phone points to grave underlying issues in the relationship and qualifies as a violation of trust. This is pretty serious stuff and checking a partner’s phone is never a good idea. As much as there are many reasons for cell phone snooping in relationships, the core reasons point to a lack of trust and low self-esteem.
In romanticising the expectations of love, some people often forsake the need for personal space. They keep confusing love with the phantom of possession. The idea of togetherness is not taking control of each other’s lives or being joined at the hip. A healthy relationship has boundaries that include giving each other space to grow as a couple and as individuals.
Should couples have access to each other’s phones? Maybe, if both partners are comfortable with the idea of sharing passwords and letting each other handle their personal devices and accounts without feeling as if their privacy has been violated. But checking your partner’s phone and snooping around without their knowledge or demanding that they share their phone details with you even when they are not comfortable doing so is wrong and you could end up losing your partner.
Some people are inherently private by nature and to them their space is sacred. In fact, personal space in any relationship is healthy and must be respected by the partners involved. No one has the right to invade another’s privacy.
Unfortunately, sometimes you might come across a partner who does not respect your personal space. They might wonder aloud, “Is it wrong to ask to see your partner’s phone?” And when you answer in the affirmative, they might rebuke you with, “Why would you mind if you have nothing to hide?” Such people miss the point that relationships are based on trust and much more.
It is no secret that suspicion is one of the leading reasons behind someone snooping in a relationship. Is he still texting his ex? Is she flirting at work? Was he at his office when I called him at lunch? You feel the need to go behind your partner’s back, checking your partner’s texts or worse, demanding they unlock and surrender the device to you. What does it mean when someone goes through your phone? You probably think there is someone else in your partner’s life even without any proof. This shows that there is a deep-seated lack of trust in the relationship. Checking the phone is not going to solve these issues but it can definitely make the equation more complex.
Even though you may convince yourself that sharing passwords and devices is normal, you know that you are crossing a line here. The psychology behind snooping points to a lack of trust and a person’s own inner sense of insecurity and suspicion. No amount of openness in any relationship would win their trust. If you are one of these people, it might help if you consider what it means when someone goes through your phone.
In a lot of cases, people look through their partner’s phone not out of suspicion or doubt but solely out of curiosity. By checking their partner’s phone, they just want to keep a tab on what’s going on in their partner’s life. You can blame it on an inherently control freak personality or jealousy over their partner spending copious amounts of time hooked to their phone. Either way, it is wrong to check on your partner’s phone.
If you respect your partner’s space, you will be surprised at how this naturally makes them gravitate toward you more. Having space in a relationship helps both of you to cultivate your personalities, pursue your interests, and even have your own sets of friends.
Communication is the key to establishing trust and resolving conflicts. If there is something bothering you, talk to your partner about it. Maybe even establish protocols for the use of cell phones when you are together. Don’t let cell phones ruin your relationship. One tip could be that while cooking and having meals together you can both decide to put your phones on mute and keep them far away from the dining table. That way you can enjoy communicating face-to-face.
If you want things to work out between you and your significant other, you must quit snooping and fight the urge to check your partner’s phone. Instead, look for a healthy approach to fixing your relationship. The first step in that direction is to have an honest conversation about your suspicions and lack of trust. Ask for more transparency in the relationship, if that’s what you need to feel secure. Feedback: Whatsapp 0782309695
